People influence, soften, challenge, and refine each other.
We are changed by:
being seen
being loved
being resisted
being held accountable
being trusted
That’s not domination. That’s relationship.
When someone says “people tame people,” what’s usually true underneath is:
we regulate ourselves because someone matters
we choose restraint because someone is watching
we grow because someone refuses to let us stay small or cruel
The healthiest version of “taming” is mutual:
I change because of you
You change because of me
Neither of us is owned
Anything else—control, coercion, breaking someone down—isn’t taming.
It’s harm.
So a more accurate sentence might be:
People don’t tame people.
People choose to change for people.
And that choice is where the power really is.
